While these facts don't have to--and shouldn't have to--be relevant to my sense of popularity, it often seems they are.
As an awkward, introverted nerd it's easy to feel unpopular or unnoticed in teen groups. I can get caught up in the fear that perhaps, (horror!), I'm not popular.
The truth is, I'm really not. Consult my number of Instagram followers. Check out my number of phone contacts. I'm not exactly a celebrity. xD
I'm very blessed with several awesome people whom I can call friends, but judging by sheer numbers, I'm not that "cool".
And, according to statistics, I'm not the only one. According to statistics, many high-schoolers feel unpopular.
So why the sweat?
It's hard to accept that I'm not the "life-of-the-party" and not friends with everyone I encounter. It's so easy to get swept up in a whirl of peer expectations. Expectations to dress like everyone else, talk like everyone else, be like everyone else.
When all I really want to do is read way-outdated classics and watch The Cosby Show, I find myself draining anxiety over not being up on fashion trends or never having seen a solitary episode of The Walking Dead or Once Upon A Time.
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So. Are you in the same boat?
Maybe you are and you don't really care. If so, more power to you. :)
But maybe you're like me and you still waste frustration over it. Here's what I've been thinking about lately.
Christians Aren't Necessarily Called To Impress Peers
Our highest calling is to glorify God. Fitting in is secondary.
Perhaps My "Knack" for Unpopularity Is A Blessing
Perhaps God doesn't want me to be popular. Which of my pursuits and activities would be impaired by time spent frivolously socializing? Not at all to downplay fellowship in Christ, but if I were a more popular, party person, I would probably not have time for everything important in my life. And that would be sad indeed. ^.^
Unpopularity Helps Me Focus On What's Important
It's good to be far enough from sparkling popularity to breathe and look around. I'm not super up on popular stuff, so I don't need to worry about maintaining my good standing in the teen eye. xD
And how many roads to grave sins are paved by the pursuit of popularity? Not to say in any way that I'm exempt from sinful temptations, but learning to not constantly strive for popularity can eliminate at least that source of temptation.
In the end, does it matter whether I can count my good friends on more than two hands?
If the Creator of the Universe and Savior of my soul constantly watches over me, why must I yearn for admiration among people?
"Be strong and courageous. Do not fear or be in dread of them, for it is the LORD your God who goes with you. He will not leave you or forsake you.” ~Deuteronomy 31:6
Can you relate? Are you tired of trying to fit in with normal people? ;)